Making the most of your Initial Consultation with a Divorce Lawyer
Meeting with a lawyer for the first time about a divorce can be overwhelming for a number of reasons. Obviously, clients most likely are experiencing emotional trauma over the loss of their relationship and uncertainty about their future. Navigating the legal intricacies of the divorce process adds yet another element of uncertainty to the situation. For a client who is unfamiliar with the legal process, learning about options and discussing ways in which to proceed during the most stressful time of their life can be confusing. However, it is a critical meeting — one at which the lawyer can assess the client's situation and priorities, and one at which the client can become comfortable with the lawyer.
Clients often have no idea what to expect from the initial consultation. At the very least, I believe that the client should leave my office that day knowing that he or she has choices, that there is no "one size fits all" method for divorcing, and that I have some understanding of the issues their case will present. In developing an understanding of the issues, it is necessary to have information about the nature of the parties’ marital estate, including their assets and liabilities. It is particularly helpful if clients bring along the following documents when they meet with me for the first time to discuss their divorce:
- Copies of their most recent Federal Income Tax Return, including W-2s, 1099s and schedules.
- Copies of recent paystubs.
- A copy of all recent mortgage and/or home equity loan statements, for all properties owned; if a home is in foreclosure, a copy of the most recent Act 91 Notice.
- Recent statements for all investment and retirement accounts, including 401(k)s, IRAs and pensions.
- Recent bank account statements.
- Annual income statements from the Social Security Administration.
- Information regarding the value of any business interests.
- Documentation of loan balances, credit card debts or outstanding medical bills
One of the most hotly-contested issues facing Judges in custody cases is whether to allow a custodial parent to relocate to another state with the children. This has become quite common, particularly as people have made and developed relationships through the internet. Relocation cases are difficult for all parties involved: the non-custodial parent is shocked and horrified at the prospect of losing regular contact with his or her children and the prospect of not being able to move to a perceived better opportunity is equally difficult for the custodial parent. Often, these cases are not able to be resolved through the custody conciliation process and they end up at a hearing before a Judge.
Back in July I wrote about the
The day finally arrives. Your attorney calls you or perhaps notifies you in writing that the Divorce Decree has been handed down. At long last (maybe six months, maybe a year, maybe even three or four years) it is finally over.
I believe there is a general assumption that the divorce rate in Pennsylvania and around the country is continually rising. It seems we are constantly bombarded with the statement that "half of all marriages end in divorce." But is that really the case? A recent examination of the marriage and divorce statistics released by the